Tuesday, March 18, 2014

What I Don't Want


Law of attraction proponents say that it is a bad idea to even mention the things in life you don’t want lest you attract them.  In other words, I shouldn’t say, “I don’t want debt,” because that statement will attract debt.  Instead, I should say, “I want financial prosperity,” and “the universe” will hear me and give me prosperity.  Cynicism regarding the universe as a benevolent entity notwithstanding, I think it’s important to know what I don’t want in life.  I think it needs to be stated, or written, and reviewed regularly.   Yes, I think it’s important to spend most of my focus on what I want, but sometimes, just once in a while, I need to be clear about what I don’t want. 
I don’t want the following:
·      I don’t want to be negative or constantly complaining.
·      I don’t want to be broke.
·      I don’t want to be without my Muse.
·      I don’t want to live a life without Purpose.
·      I don’t want to give into depression, anger or fear.
·      I don’t want to wish I had done more with my life.
·      I don’t want my children to ever feel that I didn’t love them.
·      I don’t want to be lonely.
·      I don’t want to waste time.
·      I don’t want to be far from God.
·      I don’t want to stop writing or stop doing things that align with my Purpose.
·      I don’t want to stop.
·      I don’t want to stop.
·      I don’t want to stop.

Sometimes I do want to stop, but only for a little while.  Maybe during those times I just want to rest.   Or maybe I want to stop because I’ve forgotten that I will get what I don’t want if I stop too much.  I want to Keep Going.  
There is an entire world of possibilities.   Today a student told me he is doing better in math now as a result of the work we did.   Sometimes when trying to make the world better, we use words like “fight,” “battle,” or “struggle.”  Maybe we should use the word “victory” more often, because everything one does to make the world better, makes the world better for the one who does it, whether it’s noticed or not.  Everything we do to make the world better is a victory. 
So I don’t want to be negative or cynical or constantly focused on problems.  I don’t want to be ungrateful.   I don’t want to always be assuming the worst about situations, about others or about myself.   Are there problems in the world?   Of course, but there are also possibilities.  Infinite possibilities.  For learning, for action and for a better life, maybe even the best life possible.  I don’t want to ignore or miss the possibilities. 
In other words, I want to live, speak and act differently.  Writing these blogs has taught me a lot about myself.  I’ve learned who I am not yet, but want to be.  I’ve learned who I want to be and who I can be.  I’ve learned that to be the man, to live as the man who writes these words requires self-discipline and courage, but it’s not an impossible task to be positive.  It’s not an impossible task to be a better person.
It’s not an impossible task to Get Started and to Keep Going.  It never was and it never will be.  You just have to know what you don’t want.